Halloooo.....

How are you, everyone? I hope you are always fine^^

Can you guess what will I discuss on my blog today?

If during 3 weeks ago I reviewed a book with the title “The Seven Keys to Success”, so for today I wanna share you about some blogs that review another book too. I hope, after we read these review, we will get some new knowledges from these books. So, if you wanna know about the books, please stay tune on my blog........

1. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck^[1]

The author said that the book who written by Mark Manson entitled "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck" is the title sounds so rude, but the contents can give us a lot of insight. Yes, I think it’s right. Because when I read the title, I feel like “What is the book actually?” “Why is the book sound so rude?”, yaps something like that. But after I read the synopsis, I think the book isn’t like that. And from that, I also agree with the author’s said that from this book I can learn that don't judge a book by its cover.

I think the author in reviewing this book is clear enough and the author also use the language that is easy to understand. From this book, I can get some important point such as ‘even though we fall we will still be fine’. This book is good, right?^^

2. An Idiot Success Man - Forrest Gump^[2]

One day when Curtis had to change a wheel on the car, I helped him.

‘If you’re an idiot,’ he said angrily, ‘how do you know how to do that?’

‘Maybe I am an idiot,’ I said, ‘but ‘I’m not stupid.’

I was born an idiot, but ‘I’m cleverer than most people think.

That is one of the quotes from the book with the title An Idiot Success Man – Forrest Gump who written by Winston Groom. And this book finally become a film with Tom Hanks and Sally Field in it. But, I still not yet to watch it hihi^^ From the synopsis, I can know that Forrest Gump is a good-hearted young man from Alabama in the USA. He wins a medal for being very brave in the Vietnam war and meets the President of the United States of America. He becomes a handballer, a film star, a businessman and he goes into space. And his best friend is an ape, called Sue. Forrest Gump is also an unusual man who does a lot of unusual things. And I’m very like the quote from this book, that is “It doesn’t matter if you are rich or poor, you can be anything you want to be”. I think the author when reviewing this book is describe clearly, so I can understand the aim of this book.

3. How to Talk so Kids will Listen and  How to Listen so Kids will Talk^[3]

When I read this title, I feel directly excited. Yaps, because I like kids too and I ever taught the children. I think the child period is the period where they can express their feeling, the period where their curiousity is high, so it can make this period unique, because definetely there are so many behaviors that do by children.

The book with the title “How to Talk so Kids will Listen and How to Listen so Kids will Talk” who written by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, will discusse about:

·           Cope with your child's negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment 

·           Express your strong feelings without being hurtful 

·           Engage your child's willing cooperation 

·           Set firm limits and maintain goodwill 

·           Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline 

·           Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise 

·           Resolve family conflicts peacefully

In the reviewing this book, the author can describe the book clearly enough, so I can get many points from this book.

4. The Secret of Successful Learning^[4]

As the title that is “The Secret of Successful Learning” who written by Maria Monalisa Victorio Handoko, this book discusse about how to get a successful learning. For me who course in Faculty of Teachers Training and Education, especially in English Education Department, this book is very helping me for now and the future leter.

As the synopsis part said that the successful learning can’t be achieved if parents are unsupportive or if teachers don’t nurture their students properly. Problems like bullying, lack of motivation, laziness or academic pressure can be tackled if we understand the root of the problem. Yaps it’s right, because I think in order to get the successful learning, all of the learning elements must have a good collaboration. And I can learn about the secret of successful learning in this book, because the author described clearly enough of this book.

5. The Science of Getting Rich^[5]

‘The Science of Getting Rich’ who written by Wallace D. Wattles is the book that tell us about how to getting rich. There are 17 chapter in this book which every chapter has the different explanation. Reading this book provides a basic understanding of the concept of attracting wealth such as science of getting reach, the right to be reach, the first principle in the science of getting rich, increasing life, thinking in the centain way, acting in the certain way, efficient action, the impression of increase and etc.

I think this book is good for our knowledge to getting rich life. And the author when explain about this book is good, so I can understand about it.

If you wanna know or read the review of these books fully, you can copy the link that I write in under part and you paste it on Google. So, thank you very much for visiting my blog and I’m sorry if there are so many mistakes. Enjoy your day^^

^^See You^^.....

References:

[1] http://syifasalsabilaardani.blogspot.com/2018/11/the-subtle-art-of-not-giving-f.html?m=1

[2] http://yevielokftn.blogspot.com/2018/11/an-idiot-success-man-forrest-gump-book.html?m=1

[3] https://febypartiniofficial.blogspot.com/2018/11/how-to-talk-so-kids-will-listen-and-how.html?m=1

[4] https://widyads256.blogspot.com/2018/11/the-synopsis-secret-of-successful.html?m=1

[5] https://sonianovelia.blogspot.com/2018/11/the-science-of-getting-rich-title.html?m=1

#Part 3

Hallooooooo..... Welcome back to my blog everyone^^

I think you have know what will I discuss right now, right? Yaps, today is the last part of the book with the title “The Seven Keys to Success” that I will discuss right now. Are you feel so curious? If yes, please keep on my blog everyone^^

The Seven Keys to Success

There is No Failure

“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing”-Denis Waitley

Yaps it’s right. If we will try something or we do something, surely we will experience failure first. Because in fact, there will be no person who when doing something will immediately succeed, surely they will experience a failure first. None of us like to fail and perhaps, more than anything else, it’s the fear of failing that holds many people back from defining their dream and going for it. Let’s face it, it is a lot easier to just go with the flow, turn up, get paid and settle for living a quiet, untroubled existence.

If we are dreaming big dreams, we are certain to have doubts about our own ability to succeed. But, at least, we don’t have to worry about the effort of trying and therefore, never have to face the prospect of failure. When going to do something, we will definitely think of 'What happens if later I fail?'. Yes, actually, that is indeed a reasonable question. But, if finally we do fail when trying something, always remember that staying flexible means being prepared to change our approach to produce the result we are after. In changing our route, we are not changing the goal. Failure can be an excellent teacher in this respect, provided we are prepared to learn the lessons and ensure we don’t repeat the same mistakes.

When we fail, as difficult as it may be, we should really welcome it. Of course, that’s not an easy thing to do, but that attitude does separate the winners from the lossers. There are so many stories of failure behind successful people, such as stories that are already popular are those of Thomas Alfa Edison. Yes, he is a Success Scientist who invented the light bulb that has experienced 99 failures. But at the 99th failure, did he felt hopeless and finally left the trial? Of course not. He kept trying to not repeat the same mistakes, until finally in the 100th trial he could successfully create a light bulb. That's why we have to believe that behind the failures that we experience, there is a wisdom in it. So, let's continue to fight and never feel hopeless^^

The Journey to Success

As our journey to success progresses, we will need to internalise the seven keys we have discussed. To internalise, means to make these principles a part of ourself and we do that by practise. If we want to be successful, our first priority should be to identify our own life-purpose. After we have identified our life-purpose, that we can possibly commit ourself to achieving it. After that, we can apply the qualities of presistence, flexibility and passion to the creation and execution of our plan, whilst developing a winning attitude that embraces open-mindedness, faith and thankfulness. If we want to be successful people, we also have to multiply associating with successful people.

“There is nothing more certain than the truth that you will achieve your dream if you first allow yourself to dream it and then, apply the principles that are outlined in this little book”-Will Edwards

Spiritual Principles

Our own personal growth and the process of becoming the person we need to be, in order to reach our goals, is a spiritual process that is fundamentally connected with finding and achieving our life-purpose. And that, Will Edwards personally believe, is God-given. Don't forget to always involve God in whatever we do.

Universal Principles

There are many universal principles that mentioned in this book, such as:

“Do the thing and you will be given the power.”-Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Let me tell you the secret that has led to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity.”-Louis Pasteur

“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.”-Willie Nelson

The Rest of Your Life

“The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.”-Steve Jobs

We can make a difference, right where we are and in whatever line of business we choose to operate if we hold on to our vision and keep chipping away. As Steve Jobs so inshightfully said, we have to first believe we can change things. We must believe that we can and do achieving extraordinary things.

“So you already know, in your heart that you are unique. You are not only unique, you are talented too, even if you don’t think you are. You have at least one talent that makes you better than anyone else at some specific thing.”-Will Edwards

Changing the World

Sometimes, we may feel that there is just so much wrong with the world that we cannot possibly make a positive differences, but with doing whatever we can, we metaphorically become starfish throwers, changing the world one day at a time, one idea at a time, one act at a time. As Mother Theresa once so beautifully put it, “if you can’t feed a hundred people, thean feed just one.”

So, it’s the last session of reviewing this book. Thank you for reading my review. I hope, after you read this, you and I will be even more passionate about achieving our dreams. Keep fighting, never despair, always involve God in everything we do and do the seven keys to success that we discussed earlier. I also hope that hopefully we will all be successful people who can change the world for the better^^ KEEP FIGHTING EVERYONE^^ and I’m sorry if there are so many mistakes. 

See you again.

# Part 2

The 7 Keys to Success

Holllaaaaaaa....

How are you today? I hope you’re always fine^^

Do you still remember two keys to success that I have reviewed a week ago? Yaps, as I said before that I will review the book with the title is “The 7 Keys to Success” for 3 weeks later, so for today I will continue with the third until seventh keys to success. If you wanna know, please read it until finish^^

3. Presistence

Presistence is the act of continually pursuing something in spite of obstacles. In this part describe about if we want get a success, we must refusing to give up, especially when faced with oposition or difficulty.

According to Will Edwards, presistence is what drives you on take the next step in your journey; presistence is what prevents you from getting discouraged by what may have happened in the past; presistence is where the rubber meets the road. In this part, the writter also tell us about the book with the title ‘Touching the Void’  which describe about Joe Simpson recounts how he and his friend Simon Yates, climbed Siula Grande in the Peruvian Andes. From the Joe’s story, we can learn that in our journey to success, we also need to be resilient and presistent, especially at those times when everything might seem hopeless. We need to learn how to access that inner strength that we definitely possess, that makes we stronger than we think.

“You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”-Pooh

When we meet an obstacle, as we inevitably will, presistence determines what we will do; whether we will give up or keep going. Presistence is what gets we back on our feet, dusted down and ready to go again.

4. Flexibility

To become successful, we need to notice what is working, and what is not, and be prepared to change our approach in order to get what we want –that is the essence of flexibility.

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got”

In other words, if we continue doing exactly what we are now doing, then don’t be suprised when we don’t see any increase or change in our results. So, to get greater benefits in the future, we need to change what we are doing in the present in order to produce them.

As usual, in every chapter, the writter sometimes tell us about a story that can increase our spirit to get a successful life. In this chapter, the writter tell us about a story from Kevin Keegan, the famous footballer (soccer) and eventually manager of the English national team. Many people around him said that he would never become a footballer because he was not talented enough, he was not strong enough and he was too small. It would have been easy enough for him to just give up. But, what did Kevin actually do? Yaps it’s right, that there was nothing he could do about his height, so he worked on what he could. He worked on his physique until he built a strong, powerful frame and he also worked on his basic ball skills. And what happen to Kevin? Yaps, finally he got what he want. He success in his football team.

And Will Edwards said that, when he tell Kevin’s story at his workshop events and sometimes people will say something like this:

“What about all the people who tried and tried but still never made it?”

Will Edwards answer that Kevin was a winner and we too can become a winner. To become a winner, we need to inernalise the seven qualities that we are discussing right now.

If you really want to success, in whatever field of endeavour you are pursuing, you can have it. But you need to be prepared to work for it. Finding out and then doing whatever it takes, is the quality of flexibility.

5. Faith

Faith is strong belief in something without proof or evidence. There will be many people who will tell us that we will never, or simply cannot, achieve our dream. They are the 80% of people who once had a dream but have now settled for something less. But their experience of llife gradually ground them down and their dreams were relucantly put away. Those dreams still live somewhere, deep down within their hearts, but they no longer believe that they are achievable.

And in this chapter, the writter also tell us about a story from Glenn Cunningham. When Glenn was young, Glenn become trapped inside the school building when fire broke out. As a consequemce, he was very badly burned and it seemed that he would die from his injuries. But glenn survived, though unfortunately from his waist down, he was left completely paralysed. He always try everyday in order to can walk again. And finally he can walk again.

It is truly amazing what we can do when we believe in our own ability. That’s why we need faith –a deep down, dogged belief that, regardless of the evidence, we are going to make it! We are going to achieve what we have set out to accomplish. We are going to make a difference in this life.

6. Thankfulness

The laws of success tell us to cultivate a grateful attitude, but why should thankfulness affect our success?

It may be difficult, at first, to see exactly how thankfulness can be such an important key to our success, but by seeking to maintain an ‘attitude of gratitude’ we are indeed tapping into the timeless laws of success. On the other hand, having an attitude of gratitude impacts our countenance and our general outlook on life and people, generally, will prefer to work with happy, cheerful, grateful people rather than miserable, downcast, merchants of doom and gloom.

So, in this chapter tell us about that we must always thankfulness for whatever that we get.

“If you can learn to make gratitude a part of the way you live your life, you will be simply amazed st how the attitude of the people around you will change too”.

7. Passion

Will Edwards’ said that passion is youre heart’s one true desire or the deepest desire of your heart. Deep within our heart, there is a desire, the pursuit of which will bring you all the happiness, success and fulfilment we really want. So to find our passion is to identify our own unique purpose in life; to live our passion is to achieve what the author’s like to refer as the Deepest Desire of Your Heart.

In this chapter, the author tell us about a story from a poultry farmer. He placed an eagle’s egg in amongst his chickens to see what would happen. One of the chickens sat on the egg and nurtured it until it hatched and an eaglet was born. It grew up with the other chickens in the farmyard. One day a young eagle caught sight of a magnificent bird confidently soaring high in the sky, and he turned to an old rooster.

“What kind of bird is that?” a young eagle asked.

The old bird said “That is an eagle, the most powerful bird in the land.”

“I wish I could soar like that”

“But you can’t. He is an eagle and we are just chickens.”

And so, the eagle went back to startching the ground and he lived the rest of his life like a chicken, for that is what he believed he was.

So from that story, we can learn that we are an eagle. We were born to fly, we are destined to soar. We are called to achieve something important with our life. Don’t waste our opportunity.

So, that’s all of the chapter of the seven keys to success. What do you feel after you read the seven keys to success? Do you feel more excited to get your dream? I hope, after you read it, you can apply it in your life. And you must believe that we can get a successful life. Keep spirit, keep fighting and keep do your best.

For next week I still review about this book, so please keep stay tune on my blog. And I’m sorry if there are so many mistakes. Thank you for visiting my blog. See you later guys^^

THE SEVEN KEYS TO SUCCESS

Halloooooo welcome back to my blog everyone........

How are you today?

I hope you’re always fine^^

“Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be” -George Sheehan

Yapsss today, I would like to share you about the book that I’ve read about three days ago. When I saw the cover of this book and I read the title, I directly feel so interested with this book. So, if you’re also feel interested like me, please stay tune on my blog and read until finish^^

Title                 : The Seven Keys to Success

Writter            : Will Edwards

Page                : 60

Actually, this book have 12 chapters that 7 of 12 chapters discussed about the keys to success. Therefore, in about 3 weeks later, I will share you about the seven keys to success from this book on my blog. But for today, I will just discussed 2 chapters from 7 keys to success of this book, that are commitment and an open mind. Lets we discussed now........

Before I shared you about two chapters that I’ve mentioned before, I wanna tell you a little bit about the introduction of this book.

According to Will Edward, real satisfaction comes not only from achieving goals for their own sake, but by making contribution to society as a whole; by finding the one thing that really gets you excited, engages your talents and rewards you financially. Something that is truly worthy of your time and energy, that you enjoy doing; something you can take pride in doing, and that makes you feel good. A difficulty for many people is that they don’t see themselves as anything particularly special, and they don’t believe that life holds any real meaning. So, it can make someone feel unconfidence to start something and that’s actually can hinder someone’s success.

Because that cases, the purpose of this book is to challenge our thinking about what we are, why we are here, and the writter’s hope is that we will begin to see ourself as a special person, with a truly unique purpose in life. The writter also say that it’s time for we to wake-up! It’s time for we to start thinking of our life in different way. It’s time for we to fulfil our dream –whatever that may be.

After you read this introduction, are you feel more interested with this book and wanna know about all of this book? If yes, please wait me to share my review about this book during 3 weeks later......

1. Commitment

As we know, commitment is the act of binding yourself, intellectually or emotionally, to a definite course of action. In this chapter can help we to find our dream, develop it and then to actually achieve it. To get a truly successful life, we need to first have a dream. As Carl Sandburg, an American historian, poet and novelist, said that

“Nothing happens unless first a dream”.

The one of the real secrets of success is:

We should dream big dreams because we can have anything we want!

Yaps, it’s true. We can have anything we want, we can be anything we want to be and we can do anything we want to do. So, don’t afraid to have a big dream, because no one person who can forbid that. And after we have a dream, we must completely commit ourself to its ultimate fulfilment.

In this chapter there is also a story from Charles Lindbergh, he was the first person to fly the Atlantic solo. You know, what the first thing that he did? Yaps, he have a dream. He dream to being the first person to fly the Atlantic solo and he completely comitted himself to achieved that.

2. An Open Mind

Once we have committed ourself to achieving our dream, we should begin to notice something rather odd starting to happen in our life: the universe actually begins to help us to achieve it. So, we need to be open minded to get a successful life.

And in this chapter, there is also a story from Rudy Ruettiger. His dream was to play football for Notre Dame. Everyone told him it couldn’t be done. But, he have an open mind and this is how the universe helped him to achieve his dream.

“When you carry your own dream within, you too will be able to touch the hearts and minds of the people around you in much the same way and it is a truly wonderful and uplifting experience when you find out for yourself that the universe does indeed help you to achieve your goal” -Wll Edwards

I think that’s enough for today. And as I told you before, that during 3 weeks later, I wanna share you about this book until the end of the keys. Thank you for visiting my blog. I hope you like my review about this book and I’m sorry if there are so many mistakes.

Goodbye

PETER PAN

Halooooooo welcome back to my blog everyone...

Today I wanna tell you about a new novel that I bought a week ago. So, if you wanna know about my novel, please stay tune...

 Title                 : PETER PAN

Writter            : J.M. Barrie

Page                : 232

“Second star to the right, and straight on til morning”

Peter is Peter Pan is a child who never grew up and his life is full of miracles on Neverland. He has an arrogant attitude that makes him both attractive and hated. Its ingenuity reminds us of the Kancil, the difference is that the writer is not ashamed to call Peter crafty. He also has severe forgetfulness, or maybe it is already fate for the real world and Neverland to forget each other.

In this book also describe about The Darling Family. The Darling family consists of Mr. Darling with high prestige, Mrs. Darling is as gentle as any other mother, and their three children: Wendy, John, and Michael. The family is served by Liza who they often call 'helpers' as well as Nana, a dog who is the caregiver of their children.

Three children in the Darling family: Wendy, Michael, and John, believe that Peter Pan is indeed there. Unfortunately, their father thought Peter was just their imagination. One day, when Mr. and Mrs. Darling went to dinner to No. 27. And children should sleep soundly. Peter came to look for the shadow that Nana had taken yesterday. His crying when he couldn't put up the shadow woke Wendy. Wendy then stitches the shadow and Peter teases her with the beauty of Neverland. John and Michael were awakened, they learned to fly and then before the parents wanted to prevent them from leaving, the stars blew the windows and they all flew to Neverland. In Neverland there was also Hook, a pirate who was always hostile to Peterpan.

In terms of stories, this story is very fun and tense. Not only about war but also about mother's affection. Where every child wants to have it even Peter himself, even though he doesn't realize it. I also like the moments of the Captain Hook's inner war which behind his cruelty still has little intention to behave well. The point of view is also very interesting, as if the reader has a role in the story. And the characters' unique characters make the story more colorful.

Thank you for your visiting on my blog and I’m sorry if there are so many mistakes.

Education System in South Korea

안녕 하세요 여러분.... How are you today?

I hope you’re always fine and healthy^^

Soo...... Welcome back to my blog everyone^^

I don’t know why I really really love South Korea hihii.. But I think I start love South Korea since I like K-Pop and Korean drama. Yeah, I love their beautiful places, I like their culture that I think it’s very unique and I also like the education system in there.

If the previous blog I tell you about the culture, especially for naming tradition in South Korea, so for today I wanna share you about education system in South Korea.

If you wanna know how the education system in South Korea is going, please keep stay tune on my blog and read until finish everyoneeeeeeeeee^^

Le’s we start right nowwwwwwwww..........

The education system in South Korea, as in many other education systems, consists of five levels: that are preschool, primary, secondary, higher and continuing education.

Preschool or Yujiwon (유치원) and Primary Education or Chodeunghakgyo (초등학교)

Preschool education is for children between the ages of three to six and carried out by kindergartens and nursery schools. The institutes that provide preschool education are usually privately owned, though some get subsidized by the government. Two-thirds of South Korean children who attend preschools are enrolled in private kindergartens. Fifty percent of South Korean children receive preschool education. Primary education is compulsory and it’s free of charge from the ages of six to twelve. In the early 1960s, the enrollment rate to primary school reached 100 percent. There are barely any private primary schools in South Korea. Almost all primary schools are public, enrolling 90% of students.

Secondary Education

Secondary education consists of two stages and lasts six years in total. The first stage is three years of middle school or Junghakgyo (중학교) and the second stage is three years of high school or Godeunghakgyo (고등학교). The average age of a student starting middle school is 12. Middle school education, as with primary education, is compulsory and free. The enrollment rate to middle schools is 100% for children between the age of 12 to 14; 23% of the students are enrolled in private middle schools. Almost all middle school graduates advance to high school. The subjects that are generally considered to be most important are mathematics, English, Korean, social studies, and science. Physical education considered less important as it isn’t considered to be education. Therefore, many schools don’t invest in sports facilities. High schools, provide in two tracks: general academic and vocational. 61% of the students are enrolled in general high schools, while 39% enroll in vocational high schools. High school students are normally required to pay tuition fees.

Corporal Punishment

Corporal punishment is legal and widely use in South Korean, especially in primary and secondary schools. It usually takes the form of hitting the student with a rigid, thick stick. The teacher will usually hit the student’s clothed buttocks, calves, the front and back of the thighs or the soles of the feet. Other "discipline tools" such as hockey sticks and billiard cues are also commonly used. Nowadays, students are still being punished in this way by teachers for any offence in school. However, lately there have been some developments regarding corporal punishment in South Korea. Following declarations by officials from the Seoul Metropolitan Office of Education, corporal punishment was banned in several schools, a rule which is expected to spread. When sending your children to a South Korean primary or secondary school, make sure to research the specific approach of the institute towards corporal punishment. In case of international schools corporal punishment is not allowed.

Continuing Education or Daehakgyo (대학교)

Approximately 67% of high school graduates progress to higher education. Higher education in South Korea includes several different kinds of institutes: Junior colleges, four-year colleges, universities, Open University (which allows you to take academic courses via the Internet), cyber colleges and colleges in workplaces. Junior colleges provide two to three years of post-secondary education, covering mainly vocational and technical teaching programs. Colleges usually offer four year programs at the undergraduate level. Universities provide undergraduate programs, as well as, master and doctorate degree programs. Eighty one percent of higher education students are enrolled in private institutes. An academic year in South Korea consists of two semesters. The first semester begins on March 1^st and ends on August 31^st. There are two vacations every year: summer vacation from mid-July through August and winter vacation from late December through February.

For study hours, in the education system in South Korea for those who are still in elementary and junior high school, on average they enter at 7 a.m until 4.30 in the afternoon. While for those who are already in high school, they enter at 7 a.m. and go home at 9:30 or 10 p.m, it means that they must study at school for 16 hours every day. WOW. And when they return to home, they return to study, or even take additional lessons and usually finish at 12 midnight. And they go to school 6 days a week, that means for Saturday they keep going to school on schedule as usual. And this is one of the differences between the education system in South Korea and Indonesia.

Each country must have an education system that is different from other countries. but the most important thing is that the education system must be able to make students become smarter and more successful in the future, especially in order to that they can make their own country proud of them.

I think that’s all for today. I’m sorry if there are so many mistakes. Thank you for visiting my blog everyoneeeeeeeeee^^

See you later^^

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Have you ever read the book with the title is “Man are from Mars, Women are from Venus”? If you not yet read that book, I strongly recommend that you must read it. Especially for those of you who want your relationship with your partner to remain harmonious. Yes, because this book who written by John Gray is a book that tell us about a relationship of love, about differences between men and women, about how to understand our partners well, and much more. This book consists of 13 chapters. But if I discuss all of the chapters in this blog, I think it will be very longer, right? LOL. Therefore, I will only discuss one chapter that makes me interested, that is chapter 5 with the title is "Speaking Different Languages". 

So, if you curious about that chapter, please keep stay tune in my blog and read until finish.

As the title, "Speaking Different Languages", in this chapter discusses how the language used by men and women that is clearly different. Especially in female language. Yes, I'm a woman who also feels that woman is a complicated creature, LOL. Do you think the same thing with me? wkwk

For example, when speaking, as mentioned in this book, to fully express women’s feelings, she assume poetic license and use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations languages more often, and men mistakenly take these expressions literally. Because they misunderstand the intended meaning. For example, when a women says “You don’t love me anymore”, the women’s meaning is “today I’m feeling as though you don’t love me. I’m afraid I have pushed you away. I know you really do love me, you do so much for me. But today, I’m just feeling a little insecure. Would you reassure me of your love and tell me those three magic words, I love you. When you do that it feels so good”. But if the men take this expression literally, the meaning that hear by men would be “I have given you the best years of my life, and you have given me nothing. You are selfish and cold. You do what you want to do, for you and only you. You do not care about anybody. I was a fool for loving you. Now I have nothing”. Yapss, actually sometimes like this if the men can’t understand the really meaning of the women’s say.

And actually women also using codes. That might be if the man can’t interpret the code correctly, there would be misunderstood. The most common example is, usually when a woman says "I'm fine" or "I'm okay", that means she's not okay at all, or something is happening inside her. Or when a women watch the trailler of the new movie in instagram and then she say “wuahhh, I think the film is so good”. It means that she want the men invite her to watching the movie at cinema together. Yeahh, I think the men will be confused if the women always give him some codes like that. And the women always want to be understood by the man. So, I hope you will understand what your women want literally, dude. Hihiii ^^

And in this chapter also discuss about when a men don’t talk. In this chapter, the writer said that quite often a man will suddenly stop communicating and become silent. This was unheard of on Venus. At first a woman thinks the man is deaf. She thinks that maybe he doesn’t hear what’s being said and that is why he isn’t responding.

You see men and women think and process information very differently. Before man talk or respond the women’s says, they first silently “mull over” or think about what they have heard or experienced. Internally and silently they figure out the most correct or useful response. They first formulate it inside and then express it. And to make matters even more confusing for women, if he doesn’t have enough information to process an answer, a man may not respond at all.

Women need to understand that when he is silent, he is saying “I don’t know what to say yet, but I’m thinking about it”. Instead what women hear is “I’m not responding to you because I don’t care about you and I’m going to ignore you. What you have said to me is not important and therefore I’m not responding”. Yapss, because actually silence is most easily misinterpreted by women.

Women also need to learn that when a man is upset or stressed, he will automatically stop talking and go to his “cave” to work things out. They need to learn that no one is allowed in that cave, not even the man’s best friends. This was the way it was on Mars. Women shouldn’t become scared that they have done something terribly wrong. They need gradually to learn that if you just let men go into their caves, after a while they will come out and everything will be fine. And the things that you can do when he go to his cave is give him some support like you can say “Do something that makes you happy”.

Much unnecessary conflict has resulted from a woman following a man into his cave. Women just haven’t understood that men really do need to be alone or silent when they are upset.

A man wants his women to trust that he can handle what is bothering him. To be trusted that he can handle his problems is very important to his honor, pride, and self-esteem. Not worrying about him is difficult for her. Worrying for others is one way women express their love and caring. It is a way of showing love. For a woman, being happy when the person you love is upset just doesn’t seem right. He certainly doesn’t want her to be happy because he is upset, but he does want her to be happy. He wants her to be happy so that he has one less problem to worry about. In addition he wants her to be happy because it helps him to feel loved by her. When a woman is happy and free from worry, it is easier for him to come out. Knowing that she is happy with him also gives him more strength to deal with his problem while in the cave.

I hope when you have read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" and after you read my blog, your relationship with your partner will be much better and can understand each other. Because actually understanding each other is one of the most important things in relationships, especially in love relationships. And I’m sorry if there are some mistakes^^

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